I wish I could be a guru that could help alleviate the daily stressors of life. I wish I was the type of person who could write a self- help book, filled to the brim with knowledge on self- worth. As it stands, I’m not any of these things. I often find myself consumed with my own thoughts; most of which to my detriment. But that doesn’t mean that what I have to share isn’t useful. Through living life, I’m sure we all get an extensive list of “what not to do”.
I’m sure we know that dwelling will never do anything positive. If anything, all this does is heighten whatever is causing stress. Something that I tend to do is dwell on why I’m stressed. I fret over one particular issue that I may be having at the time. I am currently a bit stressed out about the prospect of not getting into graduate school. I have found myself dwelling on what I could have done differently during undergrad. I also dwell on what may happen if I can’t get in. Naturally, nothing has come of this dwelling. What I’ve tried to do is exert this energy into something more positive. I haven’t always been successful in this, but when I am, it’s helped me significantly.
Another to not do in regards to stress is self deprecating comparisons. Naturally, setting yourself up for failure will do nothing put heighten stress. This is something I’ve seen a lot with the rise of social media, but that is another topic to delve into. I have a tendency to see someone else and ask myself why I’m not like that. Why don’t I have as good of a job? Why is there art so much better than mine? These types of thoughts do nothing for me in a positive fashion. The way that I have combatted this was to simply get off of social media. Sometimes, it feels like I’m running from my own emotions, but it’s the best that I’ve got so far.
I hope to one day have gotten over my struggles with stress. Given how common stress is, it makes it a little easier to not beat myself up over it frequency. That in itself has been something that helps me handle it. Hopefully this what not to do, helps you too.